A Winning Mentality
We lost in the semi-finals of our company Ping-Pong tournament.
I’ll tell you why it was a heart-breaker: we’re a solid team. But we lost because of a bad 3rd game breakdown. Somehow, when it came down to the wire – it must have been the pressure, the nerves, or the fear of losing getting into our heads – we choked.
To give you a little background – when I say we’re good, what I mean is that we’ve been playing for a few months now and faced off against over 20 different teams. Of the hundred or so matches we’ve played, we probably lost less than 10. So of course, entering this competition, we expect to be up there.
Anyway, the point is, we lost. And my partner took it really hard. I don’t blame him for taking it hard – the game took an emotional toll on him and he just started playing uncharacteristically more so than I did. Easy shots missed, serving badly, hitting balls into the net. It was bad.
But the fact is, it happens. It happens in sports and it happens in life. Take the 2007 Dallas Mavs. Best team in the league, loses in the first round of the playoffs to the lowest ranked playoff team. Take the 2007 Patriots. 16-0 for the season, loses in the finals to the (at the time) measly NY Giants.
And the fall hurts, but you have to pick yourself up. And that’s what the winning mentality is truly about. Being able to cope with loss, maintain your confidence, and go back in there with double the amount of effort, strength, and focus.
When we talk about winners, Michael Jordan comes to mind. And his Nike commercial stated it the best – I failed over and over again in life and that is why I succeed… I can accept failure.
Winners don’t win everything. Winners have the mentality of taking failure in stride and using it to improve. The mentality to learn from past mistakes and step up again, with the same amount of confidence you had. Winning is playing as though there is nothing to lose.
If you want to be a winner – it’s true what you have to do. Learn to cope with failure and loss. Learn to adjust to plans when they don’t go your way and re-seize the plan.
As humans, we can’t expect to be perfect. It’s unreal to believe that we don’t make mistakes, and hence, unreal to look down upon ourselves everytime we screw up. The best are just the ones who cover their mistakes and learn for the next time.
Ping Pong. We will play again, and next time, we can win.
